Hi Mella,

This is a guess, knowing what you've typed here.

I think if he kept returning messages and emails, he must have been interested, at least somewhat. If you are both really busy, maybe it's just that timing is tough. Have you been more available more of the time than he's been? Then again, if he's not making it a priority to make time to get together, that says something too.

I have had the same frustrations as you with ladies I've been interested in. I think all guys are different, though we're probably less diverse, complex, and subtle than you lovely women are. I personally am an affectionate person too and like a lot of physical intimacy.

Hope this helps.

Have a great weekend,

-BB

It's impossible of course to know what's going through his mind, and all men are different, so I can only give you my perspective on this..

I am also a very physical person - The physical part of a relationship is REALLY, REALLY important to me. The thing is, I am also extremely busy and have an overactive sense of responsibility. Add to that my hermitty nature and my need for alone time and I find myself getting into situations where I want to spend a lot less time with someone I'm interested in than they do with me. I'd rather see them less often but make the encounters we do have amazingly special. That being said, 3 times in 4 months is a bit extreme.

There is a gal I'm incredibly interested in who I see only every 3 months or so - But she's in Seattle. We talk often and e-mail often, but this isn't enough for me. However, I would be perfectly happy to spend 1 weekend a month together and really make that weekend count. That leaves plenty of time during the rest of the month for me to get stuff done, catch up with friends and hermit up. It also means I'm missing her like crazy after two weeks and when we do see each other there is an intensity you just don't get when you see the person all the time.

Just my $0.02.