Well if gender is indeed a social construct (whcih I generally agree with, though I think that important biological differences tend to be unfairly brushed aside in some circles) then it would influence how someone acts in relationships, no?

But remember, this tribe is firmly tongue-in-cheek.

Generally speaking I agree with you.. People are people and personality is not tied to gender. However, whether due to societal pressures or DNA, I've noticed that reactions to certain situations often (not always) fall into patterns based on gender.

For instance, being male or female isn't going to determine whether someone is a jealous person or not - But my experience is that men who are jealous people tend to express it more directly while women who are.

As a concrete example, it would never have occurred to me that my (now ex) wife making male friends was a jealous reaction to my having a lot of female friends (I only found this out because she told me). I'm not a jealous person, but my male friends who are would always express this by getting angry or controlling or by demanding more time.

Anyway, I realize this tribe was probably intended to be more tongue-in-cheek than anything, but I still think there can be some insight gained by hearing other perspectives on a situation, regardless of whether gender plays a roll in them.

I think there are some biological differences that affect our behaviors, for example how hormones affect our aggression levels based on gender and how our bodies deal with pain for examples. What we do with that aggression and other hormonally induced behavior patterns become choice, but people tend to discount the biologic when talking about gender.

There other thing is that even as women have equalized ourselves, getting into the same jobs, levels, and situations as men, most of the time I see a difference in how several differnt women will approach a problem with similar tactics, and several different men do the same.

I think gender roles are societally created, and now there is some floundering on both parts becuase we're destroying them, but there are some basic differences.

Just my thoughts, and I can only thing with my own experience. :)